Thursday, April 29, 2010

Join the Club


Bodacious is back in style and I for one could not be happier! At least, in the men's magazines, which is what we really want to know anyway. We already know what catty bitches think. Women "are like a box of chocolates;" some are called sexy, elegant, cute, pretty, and the ever cheesy HOT. Bodacious babes a la Jessica Rabbit possess a certain je ne sais quoi; a quality that separates the boys from the men. It's not just the beauty or the bangin' body, although those will certainly knock you on your ass. It's the look in her eye, the way she sways through a room, the way she could care less that every man notices her as she sways through the room, the way she withholds, the feeling that she could devour you at any moment...but she's not and if you ever left her she would feel real and deep pain but never be alone. It's a power developed from a young age; a gift from men themselves. Women who have never had to question their attractiveness to men approach the whole game differently-they have no fear. There is much to be learned from these vixens. Read below for some tips from my favorites: Christina Hendricks and Padma Lakshmi.



About ogling: The men who look, they really look. It doesn't insult us. It doesn't faze us, really. It's just — well, it's a little infantile. Which is ironic, isn't it? The men who constantly stare at our breasts are never the men we're attracted to.

The sexiest thing is to know you.

We remember forever what you say about the bodies of other women. When you mention in passing that a certain woman is attractive — could be someone in the office, a woman on the street, a celebrity, any woman in the world, really — your comment goes into a steel box and it stays there forever. We will file the comment under "Women He Finds Attractive." It's not about whether or not we approve of the comment. It's about learning what you think is sexy and how we might be able to convey it. It's about keeping our man by knowing what he likes.

We also remember everything you say about our bodies, be it good or bad. Doesn't matter if it's a compliment. Could be just a comment. Those things you say are stored away in the steel box, and we remember these things verbatim. We remember what you were wearing and the street corner you were standing on when you said it.




The best thing you can do for someone is make them a beautiful plate of food. How else can you invade someone's body without actually touching them?

Sex is an act. Love is a way of being. Both are very enjoyable to engage in. Both can be in short supply sometimes.

I'm not of the American ilk that, you know, your lover needs to be your best friend and know you inside out. I think he should know you well enough to please you. Otherwise, what secret will there be to tell him when you're ninety?

The parting? I think you always learn a lot when you leave an important stage in your life. With every kind of growth, there's a lot of pain.

You can't spar and say, "Not the face."

Beauty is something that commands your eye to look at it.

I never worked as a model in Japan. Girls went to Japan and they came back with suitcases full of money. But I never got invited because I know what they like. They like blond girls, they like flat-chested girls, and they don't like dark girls. On the other hand, I could mint money in Italy in the 90's. Both had to do with local preferences.

My grandparents had an arranged marriage. I don't think I ever heard them say, "I love you" to each other. And I don't think I ever had greater evidence of it.


Monday, April 26, 2010

birds of a feather









"It's so strange how all these women look alike. Like the Jersey girls all have the same wacky big hair, tight clothes and trashy make-up, the Orange County ladies are always bedazzled with weird surgery and even the New York girls have their hipster formula like the baggy t-shirts and semi-dirty hair but your style is so different. I mean...I think you have great style."

-reaction to watching Jerseylicious and one of the best compliments I've gotten in awhile.

After dating my first boyfriend, who absolutely HATED the way I dressed, I vowed never to do it again. This is just the first of MANY changes he will try to make and it's a slippery slope! Find someone who is feeling your style, doesn't judge you for caring and understands it is an important expression of who you are. Besides, the ones who love your crazy dress usually have the best style themselves.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

you make me feel, you make me feel, you make me feel like a natural woman...woman













It seems the generally accepted stereotypes about Latina women are good and bad. They include passionate, sexy, loud, demanding, hyper feminine, temperamental, difficult, unpredictable, maternal, good cooks, and most times great dancers. Maybe it's the trip to Nicaragua, the tribal tan, time with my family this Saturday, playing mommy to my nieces and nephew, dancing wildly at the party, cooking Sunday with my mother but I'm finally getting comfortable in my own skin. And I'm absolutely loving how daaaarrrrk it is.

Friday, April 23, 2010

I dreamt I lived in PARIS but woke up in NEW YORK









I had a dream I lived in Paris. But when I woke up, I was in New York city. I didn't feel disappointed. For once, I didn't want this dream to be true. At least not now.

That day, adorned in every piece of jewelry I own, including my brand new Robert Lee Morris giant cross ring (the perfect accessory for my new Xx tshirt), we strolled from Soho through the West Village and up to Meat Packing. Popped into Louboutin, Ernest Sewn and through the High Line. Finally, stopping for a margarita lunch amongst tourists, billboards, obnoxious business men and very loud traffic. It's all part of the New York charm.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Ace in the Hole


I used to date a guy who LOVED when I wore a t-shirt, jeans and sneakers; preferably his t-shirt. Now, the only time I wear sneakers is in the gym but I do spend about 15 hrs a week working out. I've had the same pair of sneakers since my ex ex boyfriend's mother bought me a pair of Nike shocks, my first year of college, as a gift. I've been promising myself a new pair for years and yesterday I finally bit the bullet even though there were about a dozen more appealing things I wanted! But, I was resolved to do the responsible thing and now I am the proud owner of the so-called best running shoes on the market: Asics! I even sprung for the extra support cushions. I cannot wait to take them out for a spin on the Westside Highway today!

Thursday, April 15, 2010

finally it's happened to me right in front of my face and i just cannot hide it









For most women, the bathing suit is the most dreaded article of clothing. I am one of these bathing suit fearing woman, which is a serious problem when packing for vacation. San Juan del Sur is the kind of place where you don't wear much else but a bathing suite less u melt or be considered a freak. So you better get comfortable! And you know what? I did. I got real comfortable in a bathing suit. It only took me 27 years.

**Tyler Rose Aztec bikini, Yamamay red bikini, Victoria's Secret watercolor bikini and leopard string**

Thursday, April 8, 2010

a proper send-off







Back from dinner and finishing packing. Car coming at 7:00 AM and still need to pack toiletries. Most annoying part, with the ounces and the liquids and plastic baggies. UGH! After an hour and several texts from friends, I'm SO tempted to go out. A responsible person would stay in but I figure I'll just sleep on the plane. Besides, five days on the beach with family in Nicaragua certainly calls for one last night at the Gold Bar to send me off, no?!

Monday, April 5, 2010

Do you smile for photos?









"wow, you are so happy! It's infectious...I love it!"

I smiled even bigger and realized I'd been hearing this from a ton of people lately. They were loving it, almost as much as I'm loving life and getting back to my true self. So forget what boys like and start figuring out what YOU like, what YOU want, what makes YOU happy. Because a happy, confident woman is the most alluring of all.

What do happy women wear? Whatever they'd like!! In my case-hot pants and killer heels ;)